[RP blog for Loki. Set after the Avengers. Will RP with anyone. NSFW content may be present. Feel free to pop into my ask box at any time. Sidebar gif is not mine. I am on mobile 98% of the time for lack of my own wi-fi.]
2014 7/24 Josh Horowitz: Happy/Sad/Confused. With Benedict Cumberbatch. #happysadconfused #benedictcumberbatch #sdcc (X)
Okay. I am rather pissed at the moment but I will do my best to explain.
First of all, NO. That is not how BDSM works. The BDSM culture is not about ‘being abusive to the submissive.’ It is about trusting your Dom and having a special relationship to TRUST one another to be in that kind of relationship. The Sub is TRUSTING the Dom to take care of them and I could go on.
I will give you an example from the book. There is a scene where Christian spanks Anastasia and does a few other things before just leaving her alone. YOU DON’T FUCKING DO THAT. She is left crying and shaken and that is NOT HOW IT WORKS.
There is what you call after care where the Dom cares for the Submissive and makes sure they are alright. YOU DON’T JUST FUCKING LEAVE THEM ALONE.
So anon, no. THAT IS NOT HOW IT WORKS.
THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN
- finding someone aesthetically pleasing
- being sexually attracted to someone
- being romantically attracted to someone
WHY IS THAT SO HARD FOR SOME PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND
It boils down to this;
Finding someone sexually attractive: I want to have sex with you.
Finding someone romantically attractive: I want to date you.
Finding someone aesthetically pleasing: I want to draw you.
If it’s all three, you’re fucked.
If you’re not going to comic con clap your hands.
If you live no where near it clap your hands.
if your favorite cast is showing and you’re dying ‘cause you’re not going.
then go ahead and cry and clap your hands.
If you tag me in porn then I will take that as a sign of friendship.
I want a ship where they mean everything to each other, where there is no functioning without one another and their fights are loud an destructive but nothing can keep them apart. I want a ship where the love is a necessity.
Where does your tongue stay when you’re not speaking? If you’re an English-speaker, it’s behind the top front teeth. If you’re a Russian-speaker, it’s on the bottom of your mouth, lying flat.